I’ve just ended a four year relationship and at the tender age of 47, I’m sort of back on the dating scene, or am I?
When I started the sauna, I kept thinking, isn’t it funny that not more people come to such a place. Technically speaking, hooking up with men in Budapest or in other big cities, does not get much simpler then going down to your local bathhouse, and get together with someone.
Why then, are gay sex clubs not more prevalent?
- Not everybody likes it. Even though the benefits are obvious, some guys simply don’t like the environment that such a business provides. It’s very much ’in your face’. You are not here to ’date’, you are here to ’get laid’. This is probably the reason that saunas do tend to attract guys of a certain age. When one is young, one still has a lot of illusion that eventually disapear.
- Some guys are worried about diseases, and think that they will catch something. As I wrote in my previous entry, I had such an encounter, but still think, the security that you think you might have by hooking up online only, is an illusion. One bad choice of no condom with a guy carrying a virus, and it does not matter.
- Some guys are curious, but are too shy or scarred to push the door of a sauna club in Budapest. It does take a certain courage to enter such a premise. It can also be seen as a public statement. As you enter a gay business, you are saying to someone: ’yes, I am in a gay business, doing gay stuff’.
- Some guys are worried about being seen in such a place. They worry about being seen entering from the street, meeting someone from work. These are minimal risks, but they can happen. It’s a little sad that they will miss out on relaxation and fun that they yearn for, but, it is their choice. And as homosexual people, we all have experience with telling, not telling.
- Finally, some people simply don’t have a very good idea of what a gay sauna is like. They don’t really see it for what it is, a simple way to get your rocks off, spend some time away from the stress of daily life, among people that share your plight.